Sunday, June 19, 2016
Happy 7th Wedding anniversary!
Seven years ago tomorrow. I married the love of my life. Seven years on, we have two lovely kids and the same lovely wife.
Google tells me "wool and copper" are the traditional wedding anniversary gifts ideas for this milestone. I just have a feeling that neither of us would want anything to do with wool or copper for tomorrow... my wish-list is as as follows.. (I'm pretty sure hers is similar)
1. Sleep without being interrupted, may be just for one night.
2. Dinner together, with the kids behaving.
3. A movie date.. maybe?
Yes.. with one 2.5 and one 13 months old at home.. some fairly basic stuff can get to our wish-list!
Happy Anniversary. May be when it's our 10th, our wish-list might be a bit more sophisticated... just may be.
Wednesday, May 04, 2016
Elisha 1 years old!
My little princess turns one today. I simply can't believe how quickly the last 12 months have passed.
Despite working part time, I don't think I have spent anywhere near enough time with her. It's so tough on my wife, who works much longer hours than me. It must be tough for other parents who have to work long hours away from home, too.
We owe so much to our family for their support in childcare. My mum has simply be a star, beyond amazing.
Elisha is growing into a confident little soul day by day. We'll take some pretty photos later, but on this day, your very first birthday, I wish you the best that this world has to offer!
Thursday, March 10, 2016
Infant Capsule
Well, the time has come. I packed up the capsule as Elisha seems to have outgrown it. Bought Jonathan a "6 months to 7 years" seat and Elisha will "migrate" to his seat. She will get to have a new seat for herself, when she outgrows it in about 2 years time.
Dani is fairly keen to keep the capsule in a garage, I have a vague feeling that she plans to use the capsule again .....
Tuesday, February 16, 2016
Just Pray (Official Advert)
It only came to my attention today that Richard Dawkins had a minor stroke and won't be coming to Australia/NZ for his tour next week. Whilst reading about it I learnt that cinemas in the UK refused to air this ad, by the Church of England, at the end of last year. Like most people - including Richard Dawkins himself, I found it hard to believe this ad might "offend" people. www.justpray.uk
Tuesday, January 05, 2016
Patient Opinion
Patient opinion matters, period. Negative feedback always find their way to the complaints department, or "Patient Liaison/experience" is the new term for it at Eastern Health, I think.
Positive feedbacks? No fat chance of them getting anywhere but the ether.
So I was delighted to learn about this www.patientopinion.org.au. It is genius. In fact I'm so excited that I've already spoke to the Unit Manager. I'm determine to get some posters up in the wards, and have little cards ready whenever anyone "thank" us for our care!!
Thursday, November 12, 2015
Social engagement..
I went to this ECR (Early Career Research - not emergency clot retrieval....) symposium the other day, the focus was on "Selling yourself".
The two speakers, Philip Darbyshire and Lisa Curtis-Wendlandt were inspirational. Besides highlighting things that you, as someone in the 30s should already know.. like the influence of body languages on behavior.. etc, they also painstakingly pointed out that most people probably under-sell themselves most of the time.
It's not that all surprisingly, given those who were good at the art of selling probably ended up in marketing school.. business school.. or strike stardom well before they take up a research career in the sciences. Yet, it is this dichotomy that, really shouldn't be there.
You can't help accepting that those who were good at selling themselves, are often the ones who are the successful ones..
Sunday, October 11, 2015
Happy 2nd Birthday Jonathan!
Time flies... so they say. I guess in a way it's true. Jonathan was born in 2013, a whole 2 years ago tomorrow. We were living in a little apartment in downtown Calgary, I still remember I fitted the winter tires well in advance anticipating Jonathan's arrival. My dear wife worked till the very last week, only then we had some quality time during which we explored a few cafes here and there. All those memories.. well, I suppose, did feel like just yesterday.
Fast forward 2 years, we're living in suburban Melbourne, 20 something kms from the city centre. Jonathan's little sister just turned 5 months, wife is going back to work soon from mat leave, I'm working part time, for the kid's sake.
Am I enjoying Fatherhood? Is it politically and morally incorrect to say no? This is the ultimate dilemma, of course I love my kids, yet I really do enjoy some private time doing my own stuff too. Besides.. parenting is hard work.
Deep down I love them to bits, no questions about that.
Happy Birthday Jonathan. Can't really believe you're turning 2 already!
Sunday, August 30, 2015
Invisible colleagues
No.. unlike my dear wife, I haven't manage to get a paper in NEJM... yet.
There is an excellent humanity piece in the "Perspective" section in this edition... given it's free online, I'll reference it, then copy and paste it here..
Invisible Colleagues
Benjamin J. Oldfield, M.D.
At least twice monthly, I see Ms. F. in the hospital where I'm training. Tall, with olive skin, freckles, and short curly hair, she walks with perfect posture in immaculate sneakers. She's in her late 20s and has moderate persistent asthma. Her two children, who occasionally visit her at work after school, both have asthma and eczema. Born and raised in East Baltimore, Ms. F. wears Ravens earrings on pregame Fridays and scorns the paucity of purple in my wardrobe.
The rest of her medical history is unknown to me, since Ms. F. is not a patient of mine. I have never seen her medical chart. Rather, we share a place of work: she as a janitor, and I, a resident. I last saw her out of the corner of my eye while discussing a case in the medical ICU, as she carted linens to and from the hospital laundry facility.
We met during my intern year when I was lost in the bowels of the hospital with an elderly patient, looking for the MRI suite. As I simultaneously steered the patient's gurney and called my senior resident for directions, I nearly ran over Ms. F. She dodged, smiled knowingly at my distress, and escorted us to the scanner. She remembers that event, and her toothy grin has brightened each interaction since.
Ms. F. has had a few more years of hospital experience than I have, and her knowledge spans gaps that haven't been covered in my medical training. Her stories add another perspective to the one told by these gilded hallways lined with portraits of Nobel laureates and policymakers. From her, I hear about neighbors displaced by commercial expansion in East Baltimore, or the evolution of wage discussions between her union and the hospital administration.
Shortly after I met Ms. F., she spent 2 months in a nearby homeless shelter because of financial insecurity brought on by her father's death. She continued to work during that time, earning about $12 per hour, similar to the income of many janitors at Maryland teaching hospitals.1 Today, she and her family have their own place, and she connects the dots between public assistance programs to satisfy their basic needs. Food-assistance programs help sate her son's craving for green grapes. And Medicaid pays for his bronchodilators — the hospital's family health plan is unaffordable on her wages.
Ms. F.'s story runs contrary to the purported mission of my academic medical center — and probably most others. We claim on banners, websites, and pamphlets that, in addition to pursuing excellence in research and medical education, we seek to improve the health of our communities. But rarely, it seems to me, are those communities defined — or consulted. The people who live near and work in these institutions appear to have no place in these missions: they are not celebrated as our colleagues, nor can they afford to be our patients.
During a recent shift in our emergency department, I was reminded of how Ms. F. suffers from this exclusion. Her son presented with difficulty breathing after having run out of his asthma medications. When I entered the room, Ms. F. was sitting with her wheezing son in her lap while he received his third back-to-back nebulizer treatment. She tapped his well of albuterol with her purple-painted fingernails, lest he miss out on the last drops of medication — as if those drops might make the difference between a disposition to home and a disposition to the inpatient pediatric floor.
She smiled when she saw me and asked for an update on how her son was doing. At the provider workstation, I found the admitting team already receiving sign-out on his case. “Our third asthma admission in 2 hours,” lamented my coresident. Ms. F. met me at the door to her son's room as I walked back. When I told her he was to be admitted, she said, tearing up, that she didn't think she could continue to make ends meet, what with the missed days of work. As we spoke, we looked in at her son, tachypneic but giggling at the tablet computer our staff had given him to use.
As a resident in internal medicine and pediatrics, I'm being trained to foster healthy families — exactly what our health care institutions purport to promote. Yet here was a friend, colleague, and patient who was left out of that story. I recalled my harried search for the MRI scanner that night in the hospital basement when Ms. F. and I first met; our roles were now reversed. Now she was the one lost and in trouble in the bowels of a larger machine. I wished I could show her the way to where she wanted to go, as she had done for me.
Ms. F.'s story echoes through neighborhoods surrounding many U.S. academic medical centers. And it helped me realize that, as physicians who serve our local communities, we should advocate for policies that promote health, productivity, and dignity in the people who work alongside us. Ms. F. and her family deserve a place in our missions.
The initial and identifying characteristics of the employee have been changed to protect her privacy.
100th Day
Time flies... a while ago we celebrated Elisha's 100th Day.. It's a Korean tradition.. little did I know it used to be a Chinese one too..! In a couple of days... she'll turn 4 months!
Tuesday, July 28, 2015
11 weeks
I can't help but to notice that while my darling wife's blog is full of Elisha's birth story and how she's surviving the postpartum period, my blog is rather anaemic on this aspect.
Well.
For all that you can refer to her blog. For how a dad who works part-time cope with 2 under 2 at home, read on.
It's tough.
There you go, all summarised in one word.
I don't know. As I said to my best friend, parenting a baby and a toddler is really a tough gig. Sure, I love them to bits, I want to spend my every single living moment with them.
And that is, exhausting.
I know I better start to enjoy the journey, as it's a journey that will go on, and on, and on.
Not having family around would be really hard, yet having them around pose some quite unique challenges as well.
Life is never perfect. Well, nothing is.
Having said all that, I'm forever grateful for what I have. Just look at how cute Jonathan and Elisha are in the photo!
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